Women often correlate love making with true love; they think men feel the same way. Emphatically no! Having sex with your ex boyfriend after a break up simply sends a signal to him that you are okay with being casual lover.

Other couples are a little less tuned in when it comes to sex. Maybe one partner is a little shy, or bumbles around without much thought. Or partners might have very different ideas when it comes to passion. And it doesn’t much depend on gender: Some men find gentle kisses and touch passionate, while some women don’t care for that approach at all.

A wrong action always starts with a wrong thought in the mind and wrong desire in the heart: "each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death [spiritual death]." (James 1:14-15, NIV)

As soon as you’re together, start being affectionate. Don’t wait until minutes before you want to have sex. And don’t smother your partner, either. Just be genuinely warm and loving toward your partner. This day is all about romance.

Avoid chasing for girls or women. The faster you chase, the faster they run. A good gentleman does not expect to be approached at all times. Always be proactive and patient and soon expect to see greater rewards.

Negative feelings cause sexual tension between partners and sexual intimacy is no longer fun or enjoyable.

The rest of the story is predictable. They moved in together and the beautiful, young, sexy female goddess started to make demands and have needs of her own. He admits he never felt warmth or love for her; she was merely a supplier of his narcissistic needs. As the relationship deteriorated, he fought the impulse to have anonymous sex with people who wouldn’t make demands on him.

Try to remember the reasons you decided to break off the relationship with your ex in the first place. It might help to ask yourself, “What emotional trauma am I opening myself up to by sexually reconnecting with this person?” or “Am I taking a step back in my life by reconnecting with this person, rather than moving ahead?”